It’s very easy to forgive when you yourself have your own share of transgressions, or to say, “I don’t want to argue” when you know you’re losing the argument anyway. But it is EXTREMELY hard to stop arguing when you’re winning. Why? Because it’s a boost to your pride and it feels good to win, especially if you don’t really like the other party. It’s your chance to humiliate that person and put him in his place. Now listen to this hadeeth:
The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) said: “I guarantee a home in paradise for the one who leaves off arguing even when he’s right…” (Abu Dawud)
Now obviously this isn’t talking about dawah. This is when you are having a personal dispute or argument and despite knowing that you’re right, you leave it off for the sake of Allah.
You do this out of humility hoping that on the Day of Judgment Allah will not humiliate you. No one of us wants to argue with the Creator in the hereafter, so make it a habit to leave off arguing with the creation in this world.
Imagine if someone paid you a million dollars to lose an argument, the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) is promising you a home in Paradise which is so much sweeter.
That’s called winning by losing.